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Meeting women, relationships and acknowledgements.

Posted in Relationships, women with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on March 24, 2017 by MISANTHROPIST

In recent months I’ve had a pretty rough time relationship wise, now that’s not an issue any more. During the months after we broke up I thought to myself that it might be smart to get to know other women. I went into that situation with absolutely zero expectations. Some I contacted first and others contacted me.

During that time I met several very different women. All of them unique in their own ways. I’ve made good friends and there are some I’m interested in and at least two I find fascinating. I have to give them their dues in some way because they’ve each helped me get back to where I am now.

In a lot of ways I’ve improved myself but each of these women has played their part. There’s the sweet one she’s a religious woman and although we don’t agree on religion if there’s a heaven I’m pretty sure this one deserves a place there. I can see us remaining friends for a long time despite our differences.

There’s another, she was quite nervous at first, seemed sad. Like me just got out of a relationship. We spoke a lot and I didn’t really expect it to go much further than that but as I got to know her better she revealed herself to me, very talented chef. Sweet, caring etc. Suddenly out of nowhere there’s fire between us. I’m still not really sure how it happened.

There’s a woman from Poland but we’ve only ever emailed eachother. She’s like a pen pal really,  I get an email once a week so the pace is slow but it’s been nice to get to know her. I look forward to her emails. I usually try to reply to her on Sunday. It gives me an activity, you know how I hate Sundays.

Then there’s the one who only calls me when she’s drunk. There was always a thing between us but she’s kinda stuck, I know she likes me but I’m pretty sure she’s seeing someone. Hence she calls when she’s drunk. It’s a damn shame really because I’ve always liked her and will always have time for her. I just give her shit about calling me when she’s sober.

Another, a Chinese national. I haven’t spoken to her in a while but I should get ahold of her, she’s a good friend who was going through a tough time with a death in the family. This woman is extremely intelligent and I can say she’s taught me quite a bit in the time I’ve known her. I’m happy that she and her family are doing better now.

Then we have this one, obviously the one I’m fascinated with is hard to get. This woman is exceptionally talented creativity speaking. She managed to get me to appreciate art which is an achievement in itself. I can’t really find the words to describe this one. We are very similar in many ways, the first month of knowing her was spent with her stealing the words from my mouth. The first time we spoke she threw me entirely off guard and as she opened up she showed me her soul, truly an exceptional woman. Likes to challenge me. Accent like a Bond villain.

I’ve met many women from all different races, countries and backgrounds and each of them has contributed to myself in some way or another. Each of them have my respect, not as women but as people.  Each of them unique and beautiful in their own ways. The other thing I wanted to mention is that it’s damn hard to make male friends. Usually single serving if at all.

The other thing I noticed is that it’s amazing what cleaning yourself up can do. That’s when things really started. I’d met these women and they were great friends with me. As soon as I was far enough out of my hole to bother cleaning myself up I got a lot more interest. I guess I scrub up well. That’s when the drunk phone calls started despite her giving me shit not two weeks earlier for being drunk while talking to her.

I’m no stranger to the opposite sex but I have to admit it’s been weird to have so many interested. I must be doing something right. The other thing I’ve noticed with all of them in my life I’m actually a happier person, they each contribute to that in one way or another. I actually never realised being single was okay. I’ll admit I’ve grown fond of all of them and I plan to keep them in my life regardless of a relationship forming. I hope that’s possible and it should be because we are friends before anything else.

The other thing I’ve noticed is that none of these women are originally from England. My favourite drunk caller is of African descent, beautiful woman, great laugh and pain in my ass but aren’t all the best ones? I don’t know why I do so badly with English women. Granted I get looks but rarely goes any further than that with an English girl. That’s not something I’m bothered by if I’m honest.

My relationships have always been with women from outside of my own country. Even those with similar cultures have taught me much. I like the differences in culture, food and more. If they like you enough you’ll be treated to lots of new food. There’s also that moment when she’s in bed tired and can’t English anymore. To be honest I find these moments rewarding.

I don’t mind a little bit of teasing, it’s a good laugh. When she makes fun of you for being English and you do the same to her. I told her already that she sounds like a Bond villain. It’s the things like that which make the relationship between you more rewarding.

All this said my strangest experience with an Arab woman. There was a lot of fire between us and we genuinely liked eachother. At one point she said I was too white. Something I’ve heard from women of other ethnicities. Usually poking fun at me, not something that even registers beyond making me laugh. She disappeared later which is when it clicked in my head that’s she’s a Muslim, and I’m pretty sure from what I know of her parents that they would not be be cool with her seeing me. I don’t blame her or anything. It’s a damn shame because I liked her a lot in the time we knew eachother but yeah I wouldn’t want to get her in trouble.

In all it’s been a rewarding experience meeting new women and getting my act together. There’s obviously more female friends than male at this point, but a few will even smash back beers with me so I’m not exactly lacking in that area. Would be screwed if I was into sports though.

I started to write this post basically to acknowledge the postive impact all these women have had on my life recently. They’ve made me happier and in ways they’ve helped me love myself. Even if I feel personally there isn’t much they see something in me which means I can’t be so bad.   After meeting all these amazing women I’m not in a rush to enter into anything.



The dating profile of a misanthrope

Posted in General Dumbassery, Misanthropy, People, Relationships, The Internet., Unpopular Opinions., women with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 18, 2014 by MISANTHROPIST

Recently somebody years younger than me recommended internet dating sites. ‘Something, something Plenty of Fish’ he said, and ‘plenty of weirdos’ I replied.

I’ve heard a few older friends say it’s a good way to meet people too. It find it strange that people younger than me are resorting to dating sites to meet people. I expect that from older people with kids, jobs and schedules but not someone barely 18. I find it all quite funny because I’ve been there, done it and got the T-shirt. That said it never felt like online dating, I was young and it just kinda happened. Most days I’m glad it did. Someone told me not to be bitter, see, I’m working on it! It’s rare to instantly click with someone and I get the feeling it’ll be a long while before it happens again but I’m open to the idea of it. Anyway, there is a decent variety of websites available for Romeo or Juliet including  Match, Okay Cupid and Plenty of Fish.

I actually cringe as I write down the names of those websites, the very thought of using such a platform kinda smells like defeat to me. I’m pretty sure I can market myself. There is a market for everything, that said, I love how these sites market themselves with ‘complex algorithms’ and matching you to people with similar views and interests. Doesn’t that take all the fun out of meeting someone and then realizing that they are a total dick. I can identify a total dick on my own in record time and with a greater degree of accuracy, it is something that I’m very proud of.

If I were going to entertain this idea, what would I even write in a profile. Find a nice photograph of myself? my hobbies? What I do for a living? I can’t believe some of the questions these sites ask, I stare blankly at the screen thinking ‘is this real life.’ How much of myself do I actually have to include in these profiles, probably more than I’m comfortable with. I seriously wouldn’t know where to start. I’d rather just meet people the old-fashioned way. I’m probably just old-fashioned. Yes I hold doors open for people and say thank you and please. I was brought up not dragged up.

If I put my interests: Philosophy, biology, psychology, anthropology, chemistry, medicine, guitar, writing etc I just end up sounding like a douche. If I write drinking, smoking, walks and other activities to that effect I sound like a pleb. How do you balance it out? Another thing I don’t get: You’re going to a place where everybody lies about something as a general rule and yet you expect to find a genuine person? You’re doing it wrong son. For argument’s sake I could just try to be honest and see where that gets me.

creepyrearendguyI’m a 6ft tall, blonde, blue-eyed man. I pride myself on honesty and principle. I am currently unemployed and there wasn’t a low enough category to put my earnings in. My interests include not wanting to talk about your ex, drinking coffee, reading, traveling, warning you that guy is a douche and then telling you I told you so after you’ve decided not to listen. I like drinking with friends, smoking, arguing with stupid people for kicks. I’m a fan of talking for hours on end, being alone with someone whose company I enjoy. Did I mention doing it? My reviews are great. I’m a simple man really, quite easily pleased. I don’t need extravagant gifts, in fact the greatest gift you can give me is honesty. I’m also cool with animals, I’ll probably like your cat or dog more than your friends or parents. Nothing personal.

We don’t have to share interests but it would be nice. I’m an equal opportunity employer which basically means it doesn’t matter to me where you’re from or how much you earn. All the women I’ve been involved with have had something special about them, they’re intelligent, talented, funny etc It could be anything really but there’s always something about her that catches my eye or ear. Generally speaking your appeal has to extend beyond the physical but a beautiful smile and a nice ass always helps. I think to many people I seem insensitive but that’s because I don’t like to share much of myself with others but when I do find a girl I like in that capacity I can be very affectionate and apparently that’s a good thing. I keep so much of myself closed off that I think I forgot how to be affectionate at one point. Slightly off-topic: Another thing I don’t get is cheating, it’s wrong, if you cheat on an SO you are an asshole. No exceptions. Guys and girls, if you’re going to cheat just leave.

I’m not even sure how one would date, I mean I can cook, we could talk over some wine and watch some Attenborough. Alternatively we could just get stoned together, who said romance was dead? I’m not big on going out maybe that is because I generally hate people or it could be because I’ve found no place that I’d want to spend more than an hour in. Come to think of it, it’s probably safer to meet a total stranger in a public place than it is to invite them to your house. My home is my castle, you abuse it, my animals or anything in it I will collect your fucking head and place it on a spike outside to deter any other weirdos, the postman and/or Jehovah’s witnesses. Might not work on the police though. I should skip decapitation and just release the hounds, my dog can earn her keep.
ok-cupid-profiles-100213-01The whole idea of using a dating site just seems stupid to me. I don’t mean that as an insult to anyone who uses them or has met an SO on an online dating site. You’re a braver man/woman than I. Just take a second to think about what these websites would be like if people actually told the truth, they would probably resemble the above image at best. It’s something I can never see myself doing but it would provide for some comical writing material. Looking through potential matches would be fun, disregard the fact that I like a woman with a brain for just a moment. I can imagine how it would go. Right you’re an attractive girl, no child in sight, why are you on a dating site? Something isn’t right, just how crazy are you? I ruled out attractive professional females because if you’re an attractive professional female what the fuck are you doing talking to me?

The world of online dating just sounds like a clusterfuck to me, how can I even begin to trust someone who has been dishonest from the get-go? Where can I find a pretty girl who isn’t an idiot and hates everything and everyone as much as I do?

I’ll pass, thanks.